revelation is from an outside force.
I've had both today. It's been a very enlightening. I was discussing the events of some texting with H to my BFF and it very suddenly dawned on me he behaves like my dad. These are not traits I find attractive either. It's some of the things that make me dislike my father so much. I cannot stand when others don't value your time, won't commit to something because they are waiting for something better to come along, and who are late once they finally decide your idea is worth their time. It's all very disrespectful to me.
I called my mom and told her and she emphatically agreed. H angers me just like my dad does to my mom. The craziest thing is that I am so like my dad, with the exception of those 3 traits. My mom also pointed out that most women are attracted to men like their fathers. Again this is fascinating because my first thought when meeting H was how masculine he seemed. I was in need of someone new in my life at that time, and he was so opposite of everyone I had been spending time with. Crazy how that probably wasn't it at all, yet I cannot nail down what the attraction was. He's nothing and everything like my dad.
All of this is a lot to take in. I'm not sure how to react or if I even need to react. I certainly know how to better handle him, although I've been doing it for a long time. I try to ignore him or try not to react to him. Feeding the ego really does make it worse. Funny how hindsight is 20/20, I wish I had known this 100 days ago. This deployment would have been so much smoother.
Maybe my lesson here is to get back to basics. I need to focus on the actual things bothering me and not try to blame it on everything else.
You mean you've never seen a flashing strawberry before?
Oh ya know, just laying here being cute and stuff.
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